“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”
– DeVon to Meagan
Pre- The Wait
A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations.
I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.
They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.
Post- The Wait
I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.
So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.
The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.
Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!