“Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions”.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
According to Wikipedia, Emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. While Merriam Webster defines it as a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body
Emotions as seen in these definitions can have an important influence on physical health, hence it is crucial to deal effectively with the feelings that accompany the everyday issues of life. My theme for blogging this year is “ON ADULTING“, therefore, I have had serious thoughts on how to live a healthier life by managing your emotions (because there is need to put reins on them, they can’t just be flying everywhere). Here are few thoughts;
* Hold Back: Sometimes, all you need to do is refrain from reacting. I’ve been in situations when reactions were impulsive and I realized I could have just shut up or let it slide instead of being all dramatic and reacting in the heat of the moment. Regret is one thing you don’t want to deal with when you realize you had other healthy options. Just enjoy the company of your feelings when they are strong. Once, they’ve subsided, you’ll be in a position to take rational actions. These days I’m learning not to be angry until I’ve heard from the person or I will just give up reasons why the person did/acted in a way just so I don’t dwell too much on it.
* Stop playing the Judge & Jury: Let your emotions be what they are, “Emotions“. Stop subjecting them to judgement of “good” or “bad“, simply let them be what they are. Emotions aren’t value judgments. Life is deeper than just a 5 seconds reaction to something. Learn to prioritize your peace too and not allow sentiments to strangle you.
* Cut Yourself Some Slack: Allow yourself permission to feel. That you feel bad doesn’t make you less of a good person and neither does feeling good makes you less bad. You are free to feel what you feel. You might try to talk yourself out of your feelings, because you feel like you “shouldn’t” have them. Thank yourself for the input, and then just go ahead and feel the way you do. Emotions come and go, they are so flicky and that shouldn’t be the yardstick of how you see your life. Mood swings are real (at least, I know that about myself and I think I’m getting better with it-lol) but, so are the emotions, it’s pointless ignoring them. Deal with how you feel and move on.
Kindly leave your thoughts on emotions for me in the comment box.