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Dear 20Something in 2019, ii

Hey guys, in my previous post, I discussed two of some habits/attitudes that I believe is not right for someone in their 20s to still portray in 2019 which are SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT and DEPENDENCY ON CERTIFICATE, I also disclosed that the opinions are subjective to me.
Here are the three other ones, kindly share what you think in the comment section;

Who doesn’t want an easy quick way to results? But, this is your 20s when you should be learning and unlearning a lot of things. It’s the stage of working and paying dues for a secured better future. In a bid to fast-track success, young people seek for money-doubling games which usually almost always bring them back to stage one. In order to impress, some youths foolishly buy expensive cars they can only afford to fuel occasionally. And for some who did get their breakthrough early but could not manage the success well, they usually end up worse than before. When you take shortcuts in life, you’re most likely still going to meet the delay you avoided in the future.

A wise man once said, “You cannot produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant”.

Enjoy your growth process, allow yourself make those mistakes and rise every time you hit the ground. Keep learning and unlearning. The wait is always worth it.

So many young people are brimming with arrogance these days. They waltz into every room like they own it even for job interviews with false airs, false swags, fake accents and trouser suits slightly sagged. They walk everywhere with pride in their gait because of a rich relative who promised them a job. Please, this is 2019, stop being rude to strangers. Stay humble and keep decent moral standards. It is almost pitiful for some youths, so much paparazzi until you hear them talk. Stop displaying your brazen childishness over the place.

This attitude is mostly common in relationships. A lot of young people made it an habit of ‘sampling’ relationships in their 20s. They get involved in multiple relationships, fully aware that they are not ready for commitment. Some engage in mono-relationship but with false promises. Some things are better dropped with teenage exuberance in your 20s to avoid unnecessary troubles from the past that might threaten present happiness in form of an angry ex, an unrepentant lover that refuses to let go, a scar/hurt from the past relationships or a child outside wedlock hanging on your head by the time you’re eventually ready for something serious.

Life isn’t always in black and white. Be careful with your decisions especially ones that concern relationships because sowing your wild oats here and there could mean cutting your future inch by inch.

If you can work on these habits in your 20s, you can be assured of a secured future full of reaping great harvest of patience, good dreams and purposeful living.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Welcome to my lifestyle blog. I am a graduate of Agricultural Extension, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Osun state, Nigeria. I love to pen down words based on my own unique personal experiences and I'm always ready to acquire more knowledge. I'm working towards being a voice to reckon with as regards hope and literature. I love to be of humanitarian services and Motivate people. I'm a Christian depending on God's grace and strength to make an impact in the lives of people.


  • Eyimofe

    The best thing is to secure a better way to your future so that nemesis won’t catch up with you in future.And 20s is the best time to use your energy to work it
    Many youths get it wrong, they can’t tell the difference between pride and self-confidence. It’s often misinterpreted.. I think that’s the issue most times.
    And about lack of commitment, I think religious help is needed here, most times those that are committed to relationships are those that have been guided by religious leaders,mentors etc. Others that don’t feel committed are often those that love to live their lives the way they want, they are not accountable to anyone ,they don’t want guide and they don’t know the consequences either.. If they know, who knows they might trend the right path.
    Nice write-up sis. I look forward to reading more

  • Eyimofe

    The best thing is to secure a better way to future.
    Nemesis would always catch up in future if you go the wrong way. 20s is always the best time to work it.
    The problem here I think is that it’s hard for people to differentiate between pride and self-confidence. It’s often misinterpreted..
    I think here, religious help is needed here or something offical. Most people that get committed to relationships are often guided by religious leaders, mentors etc. Some don’t want to be guided though, they love to live their lives the way they want, some don’t have anyone to guide them, dont just do it the way they feel.
    Nice write-up sis. I look forward to reading more

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